Adjusting to the pain accompanying an aging parent is a gut-wrenching and an agonizing process.   The prolonged use of Prednisone for medical reasons induced an early onset of a condition similar to Dementia-Alzheimer Type. Short-term memory was affected first. Simple things were forgotten. The deterioration was gradual and at times undetectable and was a living nightmare for Carol.  In this booklet, Dr. Raymond Meadors suggests that the response of son and/or daughter-in-law is often more critical than the response of the biological child.  Raymond failed to step out of his comfort zone to deal with the reality of what was occurring through the ‘Death and Dying’ process.  Dr. Meadors points out that “men are notorious for logically disarming the wife’s need to grieve the loss of relationship with a parent still living.”  Ignoring the problem is an easy way out, but there are consequences to this type approach. When we don’t know how to respond (or don’t want to respond) to a spouse processing the pain of an aging parent, we tend to ignore the problem and pretend it doesn’t exist.  Millions of couples identify with the dilemmas encountered in this booklet. Thought-provoking Points to Ponder are included at the end of the booklet.